These words strike fear in the most competitive, hard driven, of the herd. Whether winning or the undying determination to, win, the notion of not—winning—is not an option.
A man of many years came to the realization late in life that losing, loss and lost, while undesired, is unavoidable, inescapable. How else do we learn but through loss, the losing of something special, irrecoverable yet forever there?
Defeat is death is some degree; an experience to assess what happened if not why (it happened)—except that any journey is marked by challenges, conquerable or not, with the outcome or end, uncertain, unclear.
As to the worry and wonder of why…, the reason, that too is uncertain, unclear. That “man of many years”, Malcolm Muggeridge, said:
Every happening, great and small, is a parable whereby God speaks to us, and the art of life is to get the message.”Malcolm Muggeridge
What is "the message"?